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Saturday, November 1, 2014

Good Reads: Consent, Ghomeshi, BDSM

This is an oldie but a goodie. The basic point is that people rarely refuse an invitation of any kind by saying "No". To the contrary, refusals are usually hedged in various ways, to soften the blow. The lesson is that people who violate consent don't "not understand". They don't want to understand.
Another oldie about how communities "work around" the knowledge that one of their own is "sketchy on consent".
And this is a wonderful piece on a much older case explaining the fundamental difference between BDSM and abuse:
All of which brings us back to Jian Ghomeshi:
  • "Ghomeshi: The Developing Story, And Predator Theory Observations" (Yes Means Yes)
  • "Jian Ghomeshi Isn’t the First Alleged Abuser to Cite the Right to BDSM Sexuality" (The Cut)
  • "Do You Know About Jian?" (Nothing in Winnipeg)
  • "I Knew About Jian Ghomeshi" (Slate XX)
One of the really important reminders here is that "innocent until proven guilty" is a legal standard that applies to criminal prosecutions and not even e.g. to arrest.

While we're at it: Here's a nice cartoon that explains what the real objection is to affirmative consent.


(Via Everyday Feminism).

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